(A Journey of a Leap of Faith)
The past few days have been BA-nanas in terms of laws being passed, precedents being set and Facebook arguments being had. I suppose I shouldn’t be surprised the majority of the comments I have encountered from folks with a different opinion from me see this as a victory for Christians (I am a Christian) while forgetting “religious freedoms” extend to MANY religions in this country, the sexist entitlement and female shaming I’ve seen in some male posts (I had a man say abortions shouldn’t be covered since if a woman gets pregnant it’s because she was stupid or a slut and why should he pay for that? I’m sure his mother is proud at how he turned out) ) or have folks think this is about Conservatives and Liberals (it’s not. It’s about human/women rights).
Just to state where I am at with this topic: Corporations are corporations, not humans. Religious freedoms extend to more than the business owner. Christianity is not the only religious belief in this country and if you allow a Christian business owner to pick and choose what is available to women in terms of healthcare, then you will have to allow other religions the same right. I would be interested to see what type of discussion would have occurred with had this been an Islamic or Scientologist business owner for example.
But besides all this, or I should say in addition to all this, I DEEPLY worry about the comments about women that have come out of the woodwork with this ruling. I worry most about the lack of empathy or understanding I’ve encountered as to what kind of bigger picture this could create. Let’s stop with the ‘if women don’t like it, then leave’, making statements like ‘This is still a free nation, those women can get another job’ or ‘war on women?!’ when discussing Hobby Lobby/Supreme Court vs. The Majority of Pissed off 21st Century Women. Just. Stop.
Women are not idiots who nonchalantly make decisions regarding their health or reproductive organs. Women are not something which should be seen and not heard in this argument.
[As a side note to all the arguments I have seen about women taking responsibility for their choices (aka not having your employer pay for your abortion/IUD (which PS Hobby Lobby, they are not the same thing)). She was. And here is a sex education reminder, a woman does not get pregnant by herself. So perhaps instead of slut-shaming and judging all these women you’ve never met their decisions on how to handle her ability to procreate, you take some responsibility for your role in procreating and put on a condom or stand up for you and your partners’ right to call the shots on her healthcare (and, as a man, stand up against this tidal wave of misogynistic judgment that’s erupted from this case).].
It’s easy to tell a group to be complacent when you aren’t a part of said group, it’s easy to hide behind the smaller picture of ‘but they allowed SOME birth control!’, ‘Christians put up with this ALL the time’, or ‘But abortion is wrong anyway!’. It’s super easy to snidely state these female Hobby Lobby employees should find another job (because, you know, that is very easy nowadays).
As a friend of mine pointed out, people don’t mind when a particular group is singled out in some way if they can justify it or if it doesn’t apply to THEM. But when you go along with one group getting picked on, then another, then another, sooner or later they come for YOUR group.
So if you find yourself at some point, at a job and maybe you take a prescription which contains pig gelatin to keep your crippling arthritis pain at bay, or simply want to keep your employer out of your health, or require a blood transfusion to save your life or you are diagnosed with a life threatening disease (HIV for example) and your employer is a devoutly religious person and suddenly you discover you are stripped of your healthcare and the ability to make decisions for yourself because of what your company owner believes; don’t be surprised when you stand up to say ‘This is wrong,’ you find your voice being drowned by the crowd who says ‘This is your problem, not mine. Stop complaining’. You may have no one to blame but yourself.
Or in other words: Do unto others as you would have done unto you.
“For who has served more faithfully?
With your coward’s hope.” said He,
“And where are the others that might have stood
side by your side, in the common good?”
“Dead!” I answered, and amiably
“Murdered,” the Hangman corrected me.
“First the alien … then the Jew.
I did no more than you let me do.”
Beneath the beam that blocked the sky
none before stood so alone as I.
The Hangman then strapped me…with no voice there
to cry “Stay!” … for me in the empty square.”
The Hangman by Maurice Ogden